Different Dating Goals Between The Sexes
At first glance, an article about the difference in goals for men and women in their internet dating adventures may seem odd. If everyone involved is serious about expanding their relationship, shouldn't men and women look for the same thing? Well, even if the end game goals are the same the interaction between men and women is different.
The first thing men want more than women is usually sex. You should have known this would be the first thing mentioned. Even if the guy is an honest person looking for a long term relationship, he will still want to crawl into your pants the first chance he gets.
Men also look to having more fun. Everybody hopes to have fun on a date. But most guys don't want a date to feel like a serious experience. For most men, dates should be about laughing and sharing a good time. After physical attractiveness and attraction, the first thing a man is going to look for is a woman who's fun to be with. It'll be one of his main goals for the first date when you a man on an internet dating site.
Men generally try their best to win her interest. Unfortunately, dating is sort of a competition to most people. Admit it: if you meet somebody you're not at all interested in, don't you feel a little bad about yourself if they're not interested in you, either? So whether or not a man is interested in dating a woman, one thing that he usually is interested in doing is getting her interested in him. No matter what he wants the final result to be. It's an ego thing (and women, of course, do it too).
Women have completely different goals. Attraction coupled with liking. Women care about sex, of course, just like men do. And some women go on a date looking to find a sexual partner. But when a woman goes on a date, she generally looks at the whole package with a very keen eye. Is he both physically attractive and mentally attractive? Does he bring all of the things she's looking for in a partner to the table? Of course, men care about finding all of this in a woman, as well. But men tend to be more relaxed about the process– one or the other is generally enough for them. Most women, however, need both to want to take the relationship to the next step.
Taking him seriously. You can make a woman laugh and make her blood burn a little hotter… but that doesn't necessarily mean the first date will be a real success. Why? Because if she's serious about a relationship, one of a woman's goals will be to find a man she can see herself building a life with in the long term. Women tend to think much further ahead much more quickly than men do.
The friend zone is a big deal for women. Women aim to develop a friendship while men see dates as more than friends. Women build friendships and then expand upon that down the road.
With internet dating, everybody is looking for something a little bit different from that first date. It's not easily to generalize and say that "women wish to accomplish this" and "men wish to accomplish that." The truth is, both men and women share all the goals in this article. But knowing which goals the person you're dating is likely to give priority can help you to understand better how he or she interacts with you. And help you to prioritize what you should be looking for from them.